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» pink101 - Good article

In response to Good article posted by hawknut:

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A good article as well as a good subject.
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My question above to Dr. Prado asks if "cheating" could be the symptom of some ailment in the marriage relationship.
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He touched on the point when he wrote, "Cheating isn't about sex, it's about intimacy". Could it be that there is a lack of intimacy in the marriage relationship that contributes to any "cheating" involved. When a marriage partner puts curtains up to protect their intimatcy from their spouse, they may be unwittingly contributing to the deeper cause of the spouse's infidelities. Marriage partners should be counseled to work on being completely transparent to each other and that honesty should start before the ties are bound--a very difficult project but highly rewarding.
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It seems to me that marriage is an important part of the journey toward self discovery and when we put up a facade to hide our self from the other, we are asking for trouble. Sometimes the intimacy the spouse seeks is found in an affair where the parties are straightforwardly honest with each other and don't try to hide anything from each other. It is very difficult to be honest with others on such a physically intimate level. But, it is how you learn your own true identity.
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-- posted by pink101