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» pink101 - You Misunderstood

In response to Resource posted by pradocg:

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You wrote, "I'll just comment on the point you make about seeing cheating as a form of sickness. I think this is a very dangerous way of thinking.", seems to show that you misunderstood what I meant to convey.
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My point was about the traditional marriage vows in which we make "for better or worse" promises about the relationship no matter what comes along including poverty, sickness, etc. I my question in this sense, could cheating be seen as the symptom of a sickness rather than a cause for divorce and whatever other negativity might come along. Further, my inquiry meant to discover if there might be an underlying problem with our culture that really doesn't understand what it means to be intimate and, more to the point, the discovery of the self.
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Sexual activity is the most intimate of all behaviors we know about. Why can't married partners allow for the other being able to express their deepest interests and concerns? Experience shows that strangers can often handle intimacy better than can people who are married. I was wondering what you might have to say about this phenomenon--if you're able to understand it. And, I also thought that people enter into marriage with a mental image of who their partner is without really knowing.
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When two people marry, it seems like a good idea that they learn to accept each other for who they truly are. It is through self expression that we come to the place where we know who we are. If the undiscovered self represents a life not worth living, then, doesn't it make sense that life is a journey in which the self can be discovered?
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I wonder what ethics has to say about these things.
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:)

-- posted by pink101