Personal Development

» maxine49 - How are you feeling?

I have to agree with you on this article which alarms me. People in particular with cancer do not want to continuously be asked "how are you feeling", when in reality they wish for their illness to go away and especially when the people asking are not really close to them or caring about the person but are more concerned with knowing all about the cancer in the event that they too should have an eposide with cancer. When you are asking for your own benefit then it is morally wrong and if that person does want to talk to someone about it then they should be allowed to bring it up in conversation themselves. I was once told by someone with cancer that they actually didn't feel any different physically at the time of diagnosis but felt like there were wearing a label on their forehead because of the diagnosis. This person in particular felt they were treated totally different (caring) from others that previously couldn't have cared less about them and some how this makes it artifical. Don't change your treatment of people with cancer.

-- posted by maxine49

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» pradocg - How are you feeling?

In response to How are you feeling? posted by maxine49:

It's amazing how concern often can be counterproductive and make us less sensitive rather than more. Obviously I agree completely with what you say. It goes to show that caring is more complicated than we think.

-- posted by pradocg

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» pink101 - My Dear Old Grandmother

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Whenever anyone asked my dear old grandmother how she felt, she always answered, "With my fingers."

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» pink101 - Career Duties

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Part of my career duties in a business I owned was to train employees in telephone communications skills. Generally, all telephone contacts with the market involve a prepared script (spiel) that is given to every respondent. A common phrase used by many telemarketers is, "How' ya' doin'?", and that is a sure fire path to failure. It is surprizing the amount of effort involved in getting workers not to ask the question.
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Perhaps your point about people resenting the intrusion into their personal life was part of the problem. I tend to think it had more to do with the question being so common that its insincerity was obvious. People do not like insincerity in their relationships.
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