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» pink101 - Motivations

Thought provoking to say the least.

"...to think there was anything more to the flirting than..."

So, motivations appear to be involved in flirtatious behaviors.

Sometimes we flirt to alleviate some stress and strain of the moment and other times we have some clear cut ulterior motive in mind. So the object of the flirtation has a responsibility to know the difference. Is that what you're saying?

Or, when we flirt, are we unconsciously testing out some underlying insecurity or our sense of prowess? I don't get the feeling that flirting is merely an innocent behavior.

-- posted by pink101

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» pradocg - Motivations

In response to Motivations posted by pink101:

Yes; I think the object of flirtation has to work a little to understand what's going on. As for motivation, I don't think it's always clear. Sometimes we meet others who just prompt flirty interaction. We shouldn't get too psychological about our motives. The important thing is to respond in an appropriate way. That will itself clarify motives, even for the person initiating the flirting. For instance, a too-serious response might make you think twice about what you're doing. On the other hand, a certain kind of uptake might also make you realize that you are, actually, interested in pursuing things a bit.

-- posted by pradocg

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» ghulkman - Motivations

I agree with you in your article.... that in
today's "Me" generation (riddled with self-
centerdness, self-indulgence, self-importance,
ego-centricness & total LACK of empathy) ....
the art of flirting can be TOTALLY misconstrued
between the "flirter" & the "flirtee".
I flirted ALOT when I was in my 20's & 30's ....
but have long "given-up" on such an endeavor.

-- posted by ghulkman

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» Louise88 - Motivations

In response to Motivations posted by pradocg:

Seems to me that flirting is supposed to be ambiguous, and that's part of the fun.

-- posted by Louise88

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» pink101 - Motivations

In response to Motivations posted by Louise88:

So, are you a flirt?

-- posted by pink101

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» LovelyL - Flirting Gone Bad

Love the article...after being divorced for over a year, moved to new part of the US. I found myself flirting with a coworker, we flirted intensely for a week, then maybe I took a step too close.
Although I don't think we go beyond flirting, but I feel extremely "odd". I have not flirted in years and years, now I am not sure how to look at this person in the eyes and hope he does not share with other coworkers.

Any thoughts...........

-- posted by LovelyL

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» pink101 - Flirting Gone Bad

In response to Flirting Gone Bad posted by LovelyL:

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Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go for it. What have you got to lose?
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Life is short.
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-- posted by pink101

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