Forgiveness Brings Freedom

The Act of Forgiveness Can Release People from Emotional Prisons

Apr 30, 2008 Debbie Roome

An explanation of what forgiveness is and the high cost of witholding it.

The world is an imperfect place and everyone experiences the need for forgiveness. It is often easier to accept forgiveness than it is to give it. A person who holds unforgiveness in their heart may become bitter and depressed and lose their joy in life.

What Is Forgiveness?

Forgiveness is the act of pardoning a fault and in so doing, giving up resentment, hatred, wrath and all rights to restitution.

When Is Forgiveness Necessary?

When a person has caused hurt, often without apology, forgiveness is necessary to bring freedom to the one wronged. If the hurt is held onto, it will cause feeling of resentment and anger which, in time, can mushroom into deep bitterness.

What if the Wrong Is Too big to Forgive?

In the Bible, Jesus instructed His disciples to forgive 70X70. This was a picture to show that forgiveness should be without measure. Resentment and bitterness may have a slight effect on the person who inflicted the harm, but often, they are not even aware of it. The only one suffering is the holder of the unforgiveness. They have effectively locked themselves into a cage of negative emotions.

What about Forgive and Forget?

Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean forgetting. If the hurt was financial – the theft of life savings or stealing of property, it is wise not to forget. Forgiveness can be extended but trust can take years to rebuild.

How Is Forgiveness Given?

When the hurt is deep and painful, forgiveness may be a choice rather than an emotion. It may even be a process where the hurt has to be laid aside each time it comes to mind. The important thing is to make the decision and then work at it even though relapses may occur. The result will be an immense sense of freedom.

Must Forgiveness Be Verbalized?

If the person is still alive and can be located, it can be a freeing act to offer forgiveness. Be cautious in circumstances where the person has offended or hurt without knowledge that they have done so. It may cause more harm than good in these situations. If the person has passed on, writing a letter can be a helpful release. Burn it or bury it as a symbol of freedom and progress.

How Can Forgiveness Be a Benefit?

Forgiveness allows a letting go and acceptance of life in all its imperfection. People who can forgive are generally more sweet-natured and pleasant to be around than those wallowing in resentment. It also has health benefits and great relational value.

It may seem unfair to offer forgiveness, especially to cases involving hardened criminals and even murderers, but it is the best way. No one wants to be near to a person who is consumed with bitterness. Try offering forgiveness for small offences and build up to bigger ones...and don’t forget that no one is perfect.

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Apr 30, 2008 3:23 AM
Jerry Lopper :
Hi Debbie
I have a slightly different view of forgiveness, seeing it as a gift to oneself, relieving oneself of the burden of anger and resentment. People make mistakes, we all do. Why burden oneself with negative emotions over something someone else did. Decide to give it up and go on to a positive life, with all its benefits.
Sep 27, 2009 5:15 AM
Guest :
All so easy to say about forgiveness... it's not easy at all... especially when the actions of another individual has caused you long term harm...within the community.... false allegations, lost of a lot of money... robbed... taken advantage of.... for myself a big bully corporation didn't like it that I produced better shows than all of them... jealousy... envy... these are hard to forgive .... because when people lie about you behind your back on false pretense.... the damage in a small community is next to impossible to ignore or to repair... so how can forgiveness help... when injustice has been implemented by powerful rich people... that's the hard one... to sue or not to sue... to forgive is seriously a choice... and the rewards of forgiveness are none really... because no matter how many times you say you have forgiven them... in back of you mind the emotions are still fresh ... and anger is still on the surface... I think forgiveness needs to be redefined, because all it really does at this time is allowing evil to prevail and to continue. I believe that forgiveness is not forgetting any wrong doings it's bringing it to light then letting it go. If you don't get the time to express your anger and your hurt to the people whom have hurt you than you can't forgive and you never will be able to. It is pivotal to be able to express you anger and you hurt to the traitor without hurting them yourself and then letting it go. Once you've brought this to the attention of these bad people than and only then can you release the emotion. Too many people are asked to forgive others of their trespasses when they haven't given these people a chance to explain how they feel and how they were hurt. When it comes to people from the past or people who are dead;yes, I believe that you have to unburden yourself in the simplest way. However, if there are people right now in your life that you haven't expressed how they have hurt you, then you won't be able to truly forgive. Forgiveness is bringing to light the injustice or wrong doing,then letting it go emotionally. THE REALLY HARD PART IS TELLING THE PERSON(S) THAT HURT YOU PURPOSELY, THE TRUTH OF HOW YOU FEEL AND BRINGING TO LIGHT WHAT THEY DONE TO YOU WITHOUT ATTACKING THEM IN A REVENGE. The key is not allowing your own hurt to hurt them back with the same fire they used. SOMETIMES, THEIR OWN CONSCIOUS IS USUALLY A BETTER JUDGE THAN ALL THE COURTS IN THE WORLD.
JC ddpstudios.com
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